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5 Small But Powerful Ways To Build And Maintain A Strong And Healthy Relationship

Relationships hold immense significance. Whether it’s romantic partners, family, friends, or even colleagues, our connections with others shape our experiences and bring meaning to our existence. They are the foundation of our lives, bringing joy, peace, and support. While building strong, healthy, and lasting relationships can be challenging, it’s good to know that it’s very achievable. Relationships involve delicious food, exciting experiences, and a good laugh. However, while these are not to be left out, it’s small and consistent efforts that truly build and sustain a relationship.
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In the journey of Life, relationships hold immense significance. Whether it’s romantic partners, family, friends, or even colleagues, our connections with others shape our experiences and bring meaning to our existence.

They are the foundation of our lives, bringing joy, peace, and support. While building strong, healthy, and lasting relationships can be challenging, it’s good to know that it’s very achievable. Relationships involve delicious food, exciting experiences, and a good laugh.

However, while these are to be included, small, consistent efforts build and sustain a relationship.

Let’s explore five simple yet impactful ways to strengthen your relationship.
Love is a tapestry woven with threads of affection, understanding, and shared experiences. These experiences are sometimes very unpleasant. We often lose sleep over an issue with a friend, a brawl with a family member, a misunderstanding with a colleague, or hurtful words exchanged between lovers.

These experiences make us set up specific barriers or decide which relationships to end. While we definitely meet and interact with people whom we eventually discover will not be helpful to our paths, relationships will only be with conflicts because we’re unique in different ways.
So, how can we build and maintain a solid and healthy relationship?

This post will explore the small, subtle, often-overlooked, yet incredibly impactful ways to nurture and nourish your relationship. These simple acts of love are within reach for everyone and have the potential to spark joy, deepen connections, and cultivate lasting happiness.

Embracing Vulnerability

No one likes to be vulnerable. However, vulnerability is far from being a weakness. Being vulnerable is significantly courageous because you face the fear of rejection or emotional pain and give your all, regardless.

Much more, it is the bedrock for any rock-stable relationship. When people get hurt, they tend to withdraw to a safe space. Being vulnerable is isolating a person’s hurtful actions and opening up about how those actions make you feel rather than closing up inside.

When we’ve been hurt in the past, we unconsciously heave up an invisible barrier to keep ourselves from being hurt again. We worry that we could be judged or rejected if our innermost beings are exposed. However, for a relationship to deepen and thrive, we must allow our deepest selves to be seen and known.

Whenever we open our quiet uncertainties, deepest fears, and insecurities to another person, we pave the way for an intimate awareness with that person. To truly build meaningful relationships with certain people, we must be willing to open ourselves up and be vulnerable.

This creates trust and connection that cannot be achieved by simply sharing a meal, a laugh, or even spending time together in bed. It’s about going deeper and allowing ourselves to be seen and understood by others.

You may be wondering, how can I be vulnerable?

Being vulnerable can be frightening, especially for those who have been emotionally hurt.

Here are three steps on how to embrace vulnerability:

  • Start by creating a safe space
  • Share small pieces of information intentionally
  • Slowly move on to more vulnerable aspects of each other

Slowly, you’ll become comfortable being emotionally open and transparent with each other.

Next, if you struggle with self-doubt or self-criticism, it can be challenging to open up to someone else. So, be kind to yourself, practice self-love and self-acceptance, and recognize your worth; then, you can have the confidence to open up to others.

Cultivating Appreciation And Positivity In Relationships

Embracing Vulnerability

Sometimes, we underestimate the place relationships hold in our lives. We crave the companionship of many sorts, and that’s all right. However, because we have people around us: friends, neighbors, colleagues, family, and the occasional food vendor, we take the gift of relationships for granted.

It’s important to express gratitude regularly, whether for something minor like making dinner or something big like supporting you through a tough time. Times come when we question who we are, seeking assurance that we’re threading the right path. Random acts of appreciation can remind us of who we are and what we mean to others.

Small gestures like leaving a note or sending a thoughtful text can go a long way in showing your appreciation. Learn how to show appreciation for the value, love, and support you receive from others.

Here are three ways you can show your appreciation to your loved ones:

  • Practicing gratitude daily. Intentionally reflect on the various blessings your loved ones bring into your Life. You can write them down, appreciate them, or hold them close to your heart. This helps to shift our focus from what is lacking to what is abundant in our relationships.
  • Surprising a partner with their favorite meal, helping a family member, or intentionally hugging a wonderful friend. These gestures show our gratitude and let others know you love and cherish them.
  • Being fully present in conversations. As trivial as this might seem, appreciating the moments we spend with our loved ones is vital in sustaining our relationships. You can do this by setting aside distractions, simply listening, and understanding one another.

By cultivating a culture of gratitude and positivity, you can strengthen your relationship and create a happier, healthier connection with your friends.

Quality Time

You’ve probably heard this a million times, but there’s a common misconception. People think QUALITY TIME equals PLENTY TIME. They are not, and I’ll show what it means.

This isn’t to say that spending enough time with our loved ones is unimportant. Instead, it borders on making every second worthwhile. It’s a subtle but potent gesture that sustains our relationships.

When our experiences and memories, no matter how short, are filled with loving and apparent efforts to build up our relationships, from taking out the trash together to sharing a tub or simply choosing to take long walks, spending quality time together increases our awareness of each other. It brings about the smiles, thoughtful messages, and lingering waves we share with our friends.

When Life throws uncertainty at us, it is not time to curl up and sort it out alone. It’s time to keep our relationships at heart and consciously maintain physical and emotional contact throughout.

We’ll have joy when our good days return—knowing our relationships are more profound and vital.

Building Relationships with The Right Words

Quality Time

Communication is the key to building any robust and lasting relationship. But how often do we stop and think about the power of our words? The right words at the right time can be magical, creating deep connections, healing wounds, and building bridges between people.

Think about the last time you had a meaningful conversation with someone.

Did you listen to what they were saying? Were you present in the moment, engaged and open-hearted? Did you choose your words carefully, with kindness and compassion? When we take the time to truly listen and speak with intention, we create a space for healing, understanding, and growth.

Here are five tips for using the right words to build stronger relationships:

  • Speak from the heart
  • Listen attentively
  • Use positive language
  • Be present in the moment
  • Practice empathy

Remember, the magic of talking is not just about what you say but also how you say it. We build stronger, more meaningful relationships by choosing words with care and speaking from the heart.

Touch And Physical Affection

Physical affection is an essential human need that encourages intimacy. Appreciate the power of touch by holding hands, hugging, cuddling, or simply offering a gentle touch. These small physical gestures release oxytocin, the “love hormone,” and deepen your emotional bond. We all have an innate need for communication and physical affection.

Touch and physical affection can profoundly impact our lives, from reducing stress and anxiety to increasing feelings of closeness and connection to others.

We often consider romantic relationships and intimate physical contact when discussing touch. But touch and physical affection are also crucial in non-romantic relationships, such as friendships, family relationships, and even interactions with strangers.

Here are four ways in which touch and physical affection can add value to our lives:

Reducing Stress And Anxiety

Touch has been shown to release hormones such as oxytocin, which reduces stress and anxiety levels. This can help us feel more relaxed, calm, and loved.

Increasing Feelings Of Closeness And Connection

Touch can create feelings of closeness and intimacy between people. It can help us feel more connected to others and foster a sense of belonging.

Enhancing Communication

Physical affection can convey emotions, feelings, and thoughts without words and help us connect with others more deeply.

Improving Mood And Mental Health

Physical affection can increase feelings of happiness, pleasure, and contentment. It can also help ease symptoms of depression and anxiety and promote overall mental wellness.

So, how can you incorporate more touch and physical affection into our lives?

Here are some tips:

  • Hug your loved ones – When you wrap your arms around someone in a hug, do it with purpose and let yourself feel the love and comfort that comes from their embrace. It’s a beautiful way to show affection and deeply connect with the people who most matter to you.
  • Hold hands – Holding hands is such a lovely way to show love and connect with someone special. It doesn’t matter if it’s your partner or best friend; it feels comforting and brings you closer together. It’s like a warm hug you can carry wherever you go.
  • Sometimes, nothing says “I care about you” more than a simple touch. If you know someone who could use a bit of relaxation and comfort, consider offering them a shoulder rub or back massage. Not only will it help them feel better physically, but it can also strengthen the bond between you two.
  • Use positive affirmations – It’s not just physical touch that can convey affection and care; positive affirmations and verbal compliments can also add value to our relationships. Tell the people you love how much they mean to you, and offer assurance and support.


These are the small but powerful ways to build and maintain a strong relationship. These seemingly inconsequential things are the bedrock of relationships. Anyone who consistently tries to do these things makes and sustains healthy relationships.

Remember that love thrives in everyday moments, where small acts of love and thoughtfulness deepen our relationships.

And if you’re looking for more tips and insights on cultivating healthy relationships, check out “Don’t Be a Crab” by Hooman Motevalli. This heart-warming book shares practical advice on navigating the ups and downs of relationships and building a love that lasts.

By consistently putting in small but significant efforts, you will lay the foundation for a love that grows, strengthens, and stands the test of time. So, let the magic begin, and may your journey be filled with laughter, joy, and everlasting love.


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